This is a share for entrepreneurs.
If you are an entrepreneur, you have a vision, you are connecting the dots, you are likely a leader who wants to make a positive change in the world.
It is also likely that you have something to prove. It might even be that you are doing what you are, to escape from some unsettling and uncomfortable feelings.
Marc Andreesen talks about that in this podcast conversation (starting at 32:27). He says most entrepreneurs are driven by a feeling of shame or guilt.
In this recent Wharton Fireside chat (starting at 5:52) Chamath Palihapitiya also talks about the “big hole” and the sense of worthlessness he felt in himself and how that drove him to be successful, just like many other accomplished people (like Elon Musk, Kevin Hart,…) in Silicon Valley and beyond…
You also might have these negative feelings inside you. And, that is totally fine. As you are connecting the dots for a better world, it is best to be conscious of those uncomfortable feelings, and unhealthy thoughts that lie beneath those uncomfortable feelings.
Marc Andreessen talks about how each founder is like a cult leader who creates a set of values for their coworkers to follow to achieve their common goal. The clearer and cleaner your values, and your mission & vision are, the more likely your cult will grow.
I became aware of my unhealthy thoughts and uncomfortable feelings when I first started working with Mariah Fenton-Gladis. She was the first therapist who could help me get out of my head and into my heart.
Mariah helped me become aware of my of negative feelings and negative self-talk and the weight that I was carrying because of them. Most of them are from early childhood years, of course. She talks about the importance of that inner “self-talk” in this TED talk.
My advice to my fellow entrepreneur is to become aware of your unhealthy thoughts and uncomfortable feelings and then be able to talk about them.
With who you might ask? It does not really matter with who as long as you can talk about it. It could be your business partner. It could be a coach or therapist. Even better would be your spouse, perhaps with the help of a marriage counselor.
Success starts with peace inside yourself first, then follows at home, and then at work. Marc Nicolson helped me realize that.